On this site, you will find information on how I work with anger and some advice on overcoming destructive anger, some Anger Tips (see
Anger Tips), and some of what I
regard as the essential concepts for engaging with your own healing and recovery (see
The Four Dimensions of Anger
and Living With Anger).
Anger is a necessary and healthy survival response and without it, the human race would probably not have been so successful.
Anger can also be an overwhelming force that destroys relationships, families, working lives and careers. And there is an established
relationship between anger and coronary heart disease and cardiovascular disease. If you or someone
you know suffers from extreme anger, there is a reason. And, almost certainly, there can be healing and resolution
too.
My name is Steve Cordingley (see Professional
Profile, opens in a new window), and I am a BACP Accredited, qualified counsellor
carrying appropriate insurance for working with individuals, couples, families and groups (see
Counselling,
a link to my main counselling and psychotherapy site opens in a new window). As part of my private practice, I run weekend therapeutic groups focused on
anger, so you can come and work on it in a single, focused weekend and begin your own journey to recovery.
Although I believe the best way to work on anger is to join a group where you will meet and work with other people also
struggling with anger (see Anger Groups),
it's not the only way and if you prefer to see me for anger counselling as an individual, a couple or a family, have a
look at what this site has to offer and please feel free to get in touch to ask for an appointment. For session charges for
anger counselling, see my main
counselling
and psychotherapy site and look for
Charges and Cancellations
Each year, I run several weekend groups, where you can tackle the main issues in an intensive two day plus one
evening session. This approach also has the advantage that anyone from the north of England can attend as there
are several decent hotels in the area. At present, weekend Anger Groups run in Horsforth,
Leeds (LS18) and are within reasonable travelling distance from Manchester, York, Sheffield, Hull and surrounding
districts.
One issue to consider is deciding whether you need 'anger management', to help you control your angry reactions, or you need therapeutic help to resolve it to the point where it no longer runs your life. I come firmly from the position that managing your anger won't be as important if you can resolve what is driving it (see Anger Management?). Resolving the pain and trauma that results in strong angry reactions is also the healthy option. But in the short-term, you will need to develop new skills so that you can reduce the damage you are doing while you begin to resolve and heal.
Another thing to acknowledge is the issue of Domestic Violence and Abuse. If you are in a family or a relationship that you feel might be abusive, it is important to consider the issues carefully. Sometimes, domestic abuse can be dealt with through the approaches outlined here and sometimes it can't. Safety is probably the most important consideration. See Domestic Violence for more information.
I spent 5-years retraining and qualifying as a counsellor, gaining both a diploma and an hons. degree and
have since been accredited as a counsellor and psychotherapist by counselling's professional body, the
BACP (and see
Professional Profile,
also links to my main site ).
I have been working with individuals, couples and families struggling with anger and violence since 2003, having first resolved
my personal long personal history with the issues surrounding this challenging outcome. I can see individuals, couples and
families in Horsforth, Leeds or Wetherby, West Yorkshire and run groups in Horsforth only at this time.